Thank you twiggy.
How to persuade your wife? Mmmmm thats a tricky one. I think as long as you can go home a couple of times a year, and the family can come out here for holidays then its great.
When you DO see them, it is `quality time`, nothing is taken for granted and you enjoy every minute of your time together. Plus the grandchildren are better behaved because they haven't seen you for ages !
And then you just look forward to the next visit.
Its not the same as being there all the time of course but with Skype and a webcam I can talk to them and see them every day.
My kids gave me their blessing when I came out here and they have never said or done anything to make me feel guilty, it is just something I can`t help feeling.